On the way to school recently, we were all talking and my 13 year old said ‘God’s been hating on me.’ She was saying it jokingly in reference to being sick. I had to take a deep breath to not get frustrated with her or rather not take out my frustration on her, frustration that arose from deep inside me around my early upbringing in Christianity and a judgmental God.
So many feelings rose up in me that morning and I thought about it for weeks afterward. I asked her several days later if kids regularly said this. She thought about it for a moment and then said, ‘Yeah, sometimes they do.’ They talk about people sinning and that God doesn’t like it when you sin and that when you get sick or hurt, it’s sin.
ARGH!! Inside of me I just want to scream!
Part of this comes from the little girl in me that grew up believing that God was judgmental and that he would only love me if I did good. I’ve spent a good chunk of my adult life unwinding a belief that I have to be perfect. It pains me that this younger generation is still growing up with the same belief. How can that be? How are we still teaching our children that they are anything less than perfect? Sure, we all make mistakes and we are all learning, but God is NEVER hating on us.
God is ONLY love.
God/Spirit/The Divine, whatever word you choose it’s all ALWAYS love. It’s only in our free will, our choice, that anything is less than love. We choose to be mean, we choose to be hateful, we choose to be judgmental. Yes, sometimes it doesn’t even feel like it’s our choice, but it is. We are always the ones choosing how we behave and our behavior.
When it doesn’t feel like a choice, it’s often a pattern that we are stuck in.
For me, the pattern I’ve battled most, is that of judgment. I’ve spent many many hours in processes of forgiveness and practicing acceptance so that I am less judgmental. I now catch myself almost immediately when I find myself in judgment. I let the thought go and chose a new thought. Sure, it takes work, but living from acceptance rather than judgment is full of a LOT more JOY!
The rest of the ride to school that morning, I shared with my kids that God is always, always, always LOVE. I shared with them that it frustrated me when they said that because I don’t want them thinking that God isn’t love, but more importantly I don’t want any person, adult or child, believing that God is hating on them. I asked them to try not to think that and to not say it. When we say things, even jokingly like that, we are bringing them forth into manifestation.
It’s time for a change.
Let’s change our language, one comment at a time, so that we begin to change ourselves and in that, we change the world.
God Loves You. Always.
Spirit Loves You. Always.
The Divine Loves You. Always.
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